An emotion that is quite common, with potentials for untoward outcomes is anger. From a normal perspective, anger has to be directed towards an object or situation. While it is not uncommon to have persons who are basically angry without a reason, angry persons might be experiencing a psychological disturbance.
It has been discovered that anger appears to be an emotional reaction to mask fear or other emotions that make us vulnerable to being psychologically distressed. These include shame, guilt, anxiety, and helplessness among others. Unfortunately, the emotion of anger does not resolve any of these other negative feelings.
Persons who recurrently express anger in unjustifiable circumstances need help. This is to prevent the potentially terrible outcomes of anger which include physical or mental illness and breakdown of relationships.
Persons who recurrently express anger in unjustifiable circumstances need help. This is to prevent the potentially terrible outcomes of anger which include physical or mental illness and breakdown of relationships. The help required depends on how intense the bouts of anger are and the resources available for the individual. Some situations will respond to counseling or lifestyle modifications. Other situations will require more intense management which could be in form of intense psychotherapy and (or) medications.
The Case of Mr. B
Mr. B recently lost his job in a private firm. His predicament isn’t farfetched from the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic. Before the loss of his job, he took a bank loan to complete his house. Mrs. B noticed that in the last 2 weeks, her husband had experienced bouts of anger in very flimsy situations. Some of these situations are definitely not new to them as a family. It was obvious to her that he had become less tolerant and more impatient with those situations. The latest incident (which triggered off the need to seek professional help) was disturbing to her. Her husband almost physically handled one of the attendants of the garbage company that came to cart away their refuse. The man’s offense was related to his request for payment of the bill for their services rendered in the previous month. Mr. B rightfully noted that they missed out a week during the month in contention. He, therefore, demanded that they work for one more week before getting their pay. However, the man also rightfully stated that they had made up for the week missed by eventually removing all the dirt the following week. The conversation became an argument; the argument escalated into hurtful verbal exchanges and the exchanges degenerated into shouts, pulling, shoving, and threats. Mrs. B had to physically intervene to break the altercation. She then sat down with her husband and calmly gave him a detailed recap of some of his angry outbursts in recent times. She eventually convinced him to have a chat with his friend Pastor S, who works as a counselor in an international school.
You are Pastor S.
- What will you like to find out from Mr. B?
- What will you advise Mr. B to do?
- Do you think Mr. B is insane? Give your reason(s).
- What will you advise Mrs. B to do?
Kindly share your thoughts in the comments section below.
To be continued!
Note: This story is entirely “fictional”.
Names, characters, businesses, places, events, locales, and incidents are the products of the author’s imagination for education and information about mental health issues. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.